You Have A Choice

I was strolling through a book store awhile back, and I was eavesdropping on a conversation between two of the workers behind the counter. Their voices projected so loudly that I couldn’t help but listen. As I was listening, I began to wonder if they somehow knew that I was a young women, a mother, a wife, a college drop-out (I can proudly say that because Clifton and I have both done pretty darn good for ourselves, taking into consideration neither of us completed college), and I have hopes to one day be a stay-at-home Mom.

I’m almost positive that the girl rambling on was still in high school, to a woman much older than she. The high school girl was ranting about young women who graduate high school and wind up pregnant and find themselves never finishing college, then wanting to be a stay at home Mom while the Father busts his butt working hard to take care of his family. She swore up and down she would NEVER be “that girl” because that’s how they ALL wind up. You can probably take a pretty darn good guess I was on fire listening to this rotten perception of hers. I ended up walking out before I said something I would later regret because the truth of the matter is this:

It’s not about becoming “That Girl”… it’s about how you deal with the cards you’ve been dealt. I wouldn’t change my life or any aspect of it if I had the opportunity. I’ve always known since a young age that I wanted to the gift of a marriage and child early on in life. I look at my situation as nothing less than a Blessing, because that’s precisely what it is. Now I understand that my ideal life isn’t necessarily ideal to everyone else. We all have our own goals and aspirations, and they vary person to person. If they didn’t, well then… this world wouldn’t be very interesting now would it?

This is NOT me telling all young people to run off, get knocked up, drop out of college, because if you do, life is pretty peachy. This IS me telling you this: If you find yourself in a predicament you did not anticipate to happen, it’s really okay because today you have a choice. You have a choice to make the very best of your situation or let it get the best of you. If you have experienced the same things I have in life, and didn’t foresee it happening (like many things in life)… you’ve just been given a choice. What will you choose?

3 Responses to “You Have A Choice

  • Awesome post. You never told me this story. Sadly, this girl is the one who has been brainwashed though she may thin she hasn’t been. Your life’s plan isn’t about the milestones you hit during your time on this planet (e.g. graduating college, getting married, having children, etc). It’s about the choices you make to hit your milestones and their outcome. It’s pretty simple. Bad choice will guide you down the wrong path and the good choices…well you already know. The girl in this story already has the mindset that graduating college, getting married, and having children is going to make her happy and fulfilled. And that may be true but she must realize that there are others out there with different milestones and the choices they make to get there are exactly the right ones.

    My point is this. Making the right choices is going to give you the life you want. Not doing a prerecorded path that you think is right will get you were you want to go.

    I am reading The Compound Effect right now and it’s all about the choices you make every second that determine your life and quality of life.
    .-= Clifton Hatfield´s last blog ..Is Talk Fusion A Scam =-.

  • hmmm….can you tell me what bookstore that is…I’d love to make a trip in there:)…just saying…
    You are a success in every aspect of your life…enough said
    I love you and am soooo proud of you

  • Heather Sarver
    5 years ago

    What! wow…I don’t know what to say…I am a stay at home mom and my husband does bust his butt at work every day to keep food on the table, clothes on our back, and a shelter over our heads, but he does it with a joyful heart 🙂 He knows how important it is for our son to have his mommy there, and he puts more importance in that than me getting a job and having “things” we want. Are there times that I want things I can’t have because of money, Yes, you bet! But then I think about what is really important and I just realize that if i really want that I’m just going to have to save the money for it. I am sooo grateful to have a husband who cares more about our family and loves us so much that he doesn’t HAVE to have things and sacrifices his wants so that our son can have me there all the time. If you ask me that is my husband’s greatest accomplishment and neither of us will ever have regrets for providing our son with a loving home and allowing him to always be with me.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *